I love being a writer. It’s my passion. But even then, it’s not always peachy keen krispy kreme. (I have no idea; just go with it.) Below are the top 5 things that annoy me about writing. This post was so cathartic to write, by the way. I’m just saying. Here we go!
1. Writing Is Hard
Real talk. It’s super easy to string words together to make a somewhat coherent sentence. Super. Easy. Toddlers can do it. However, it’s hard as hell to plot, build arcs, make sure characters are developing right, and so on. It can, for me at least, be a mental drain that zaps me. As a ghostwriter as well as writing for myself, I’m usually juggling a handful of storylines and plots, spending hours a day going between projects, and by god, you can burn out like a motherfucker. Speaking from personal experience here.
I officially give you permission to slap non-writerly people in the face with a trout next time they claim writing is easy and that you just spend all day living like Stephen King.
2. It’s Difficult to Get Noticed
There are a lot of times I feel like I’m just another plain fish in the sea, indistinguishable from all the others. Friends will sing my praises and demand more of my work, but there are times when no one is reading what I write. (Read: the majority of the time.) You can’t really blame them when you step away from writing mode and enter reading mode because there are SO many books out there. So many. I will never even finish reading all the books I own before I die, how can we really expect to earn a place on other people’s reading lists?
It’s a hard pill to swallow, but it’s one we all must accept. We won’t all be a success, unfortunately. You may be the next best thing to J.K. Rowling, but there’s no guarantee that anyone will ever care.
3. Writing Is Often Lonely
Because we work with imaginary people who reside in our minds, writers usually work alone. Yes, there are writing groups and online forums, but we mostly work on our own. And for me personally, as a shy introvert with social anxiety, I don’t really have a lot of local people to be around when it gets tough. So there are times where I struggle. Writing is mentally taxing; again, eff anyone who says different.
I’m also of the opinion that we really need a support group to truly help our writing flourish. Everyone loves praise and feedback. I know I do lol 😀 I also work better when I can bounce ideas off someone. (PS: Writing can be boring as hell sometimes. Not many will admit it, but yeah.)
4. Perfectionism Kills the Mood
This is a BIG one for me. I have a Type A/Capricorn rising/anal retentive personality. I believe, deep in my bones, I need to have everything perfectly plotted and have all the characters and motivation forms filled out before I begin. I have to follow a procedure to achieve the perfect story. I feel this so much so that it stifles me and holds me back. I don’t give myself permission to write a shitty ass first draft. And if I do happen to let myself go, I beat myself up for it because it’s shit. It’s a vicious cycle.
If you don’t give yourself space to suck, you won’t make any progress. Seriously. My debut full-length novel is just sitting there in Scrivener with only a third finished because of this. Don’t be me. (Don’t worry I will finish it.)
5. Marketing Is Time Consuming
One of the draws of traditional publishing is that you have someone on your side to help you promote (sort of) and it’s included in your deal. We don’t get that as self-published authors. You have to organise it all. You have to pay for it or someone else to do it. You have to spend hours alongside the hours you spent writing to try and get people to read your work without sounding like a self-centred asshole. Add in families and day jobs and social lives ugh. I need a nap, and I don’t even have a family to take care of.